My grandmother died last night... It happened so incredibly fast, we learned only yesterday afternoon she had caught pneumonia, then later at night one of my aunts called back to tell us if we wanted to see her alive again we'd better go see her today at the latest...and at 5AM, the same aunt called to tel us it was over, grandma passed away at 3 in the morning. How terribly ironic given that the family got together last week in honor of her 90th birthday and when we went to see her, were told she'd just had a complete bill of health and was in great shape, her diabetes under control and her heart in great condition.
My dad is taking it hard. Grandma had had severe Alzheimer for years. She hadn't recognized anyone in a long time, she was bedridden, didn't eat meat anymore and couldn't do more than mumble. We knew the end was coming, and we knew she would be better on the other side. God, I'll always remember that moment after my dad and I visited her and he asked me to promise him I'd never let him live that way if he caught that disease too. It's probably an act of mercy that she went quickly and without pain in the end. But it's still doesn't make it much easier for those of us who remain. And then there are the regrets. Not going to see her more often, not having the chance to know her better when she was alive and well. Too late now, too late.
And when I called work to tell them I wouldn't be coming in for the next 2 days, I was asked if I couldn't maybe come ine just to make to morning show??? (6-10 AM) Insensitive bastards. They keep us understaffed because they're too cheap to hire someone else. Well, I'm not paying for it this time. Family comes first.
Goodbye grandma. I'll miss you.
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My dear Mary, my sincere condolences. The tough part of it all is that no matter what, it doesn't seem as if we are ever really prepared for the loss. You said it, Mary -- family comes first. Take care and big (((hugs))).
Oh Mary...
My condolence as well my dear - my Gran was my best friend and family is the key to getting through this time...
Be there for your dad....
As for your job - you said it so well - Insensitive bastards.
Take care and be strong...
E.H>
Hils and Erotic Horizon, thanks so much for your compassionate words... we had the mass in her memory in her honor last weekend, until the burial proper that has to wait for spring... it was a rough time but it's getting better, and it was a comfort to see the whole family together and share memories. I talked a lot with my dad and he told me a lot of things about childhood and his own dad, whom even my mother never got to meet as he died young, and it was both fascinating and heartwarming. As much as I love my dad, he was never one to speak much, and I felt privileged that he opened up to tell me all this.
Thanks. *hugs back*
I am glad you are back and on the mend... just hang in there...
As much as I love my dad, he was never one to speak much, and I felt privileged that he opened up to tell me all this.
Aren't those the best memories - you will remember that moment forever...
What a special moment in time...
E.H>
Yes, it was very special indeed :). After my grandma died with me not knowing that much about her life, it made me all the more aware of the fact I didn't know that much about my parent's life "before me", especially my dad. I'll try to rectify that as much as I can.
((((hugs))))) I just saw this. You're in my thoughts this morning.
LB
*hugs back* Thank you Lisa.
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